poly versus swinging

Saturday, February 21, 2009

When I first started networking this blog, I wanted to acquaint myself with certain keywords that would make being slutty more legitimate. I aligned myself with polyamory because it seemed like such an ideal thing. Non-monogamy was key for me but mostly because I wanted the freedom to be slutty.

And I also wanted to be the favorite. Who doesn't? The biggest turn on of having your lover go fuck someone else is when they come back to fuck you because you're the best. Mr. Zoey had it right when he said, "I'd have 100 concubines. If they were all like you!"

Polyamory seems like such a huge responsibility because it is a communal commitment. It definitely is the most communistic approach to non-monogamy. It's a classless, no playing favorites, equal status of all parties involved. Everything done is for the well being of the group relationship.

Maybe instead of seeing myself as getting progressively kinkier, I should see myself as getting progressively more poly. I have graduated from a stage where I saw my sexual partners as fulfilling only one-part of my sexual needs. I have tried to split myself up among a few different sexual partners. I knew specifically who to call when I was in the mood for rough sex, sensual sex, multiple orgasms, just giving head, just masturbating, etc.

Not to be over sentimental, but I no longer feel the need to split up my desires and only get a little bit of what I want. I have an all-in-one, a sole partner who is also my favorite. What's left for us to do in this non-monogamous scenario is to extend our desires to include other people--swinging. It's like when you have something great, you want to take it to a potluck!